[borumpilot]

For me and my wife that works basically the same, but I have found method to the madness.

1. She loves it when I come to save her when the tone of the spontaneous discussion is not to her liking and nothing kills said discussions faster then me participating.

2. When I strike it, my conversations tends to be very subject focused and will leave me and the other person smarter and more informed.

So what I do now is either I stand beside her and try to enjoy the (for me) meaningless chatter (I really like the high pitched voices of socially engaged people), or I will try to find that one other weirdo in the room who holds a ton of knowledge in an area that I'm completely blank about and suck as much as possible information out of them.

That is where my 35 years of continence improvement have led me. YMMV.

[Porthos9K]

I know you probably meant "continuous" instead of "continence", but I can't help but chuckle at the usage.

[borumpilot]

:) You are right, thanks for pointing that out.

After looking up continence it fits like a glove :)

[godfreyantonell]

One can never have too much of either form of improvement. Also, I am the same way at parties. As an introvert my battery gets charged fairly quickly. My wife is the extrovert.