[hope-striker]

Honestly, I have no friends, so I'd really appreciate it if you could explain the difference as best as the Internet allows.

[eevilspock]

It's best you ask some women you know in person (female colleagues at work, female friends of your friends, your sister(s), your mom), and listen to them in earnest.

You may make some female friends this way. Men who listen to women, who truly listen, are rare.