[meheleventyone]

You are responsible for your own actions. In this case your own negligence led to you committing a crime. Just as if your actions negligently lead you to kill someone that is a crime.

If you have sex with someone that hasn’t or can’t give consent then yes you should be at the very least charged with a crime. If someone else coerced that result then they should be charged with a crime as well. That someone else is also responsible does not absolve you of the crime.

The bottom line is that you don’t have to have sex with someone.

[mantas]

And killing-by-negligence is persecuted entirely differently than killing-by-intent.

If someone gives you a consent because they were forced by someone else to give you a consent, who is to blame? How deep do you have to go to ensure that the consent is true consent?

[meheleventyone]

Note I said charged. I suspect if you can honestly make the case that you thought there was genuine consent that fact would be taken into account in the decision to prosecute and in sentencing.

If you are concerned about whether consent has been given genuinely or not I’d recommend slowing right down and doing more to establish that there is legitimate consent or not have sex with that person at all. There is no requirement to have sex.

Like if you’re in the situation as a gone to seed old guy who is approached by a teenager at a party it’s not rocket science to maybe think twice about having sex with them.

[mantas]

Not only charged. There's quite a bit of difference in public perception and how you're treated. E.g. if you hunted someone down and killed in called blood or someone happened to die because of your neglect. E.g. as engineer or doctor who did a mistake.