[ljm]

I’ve suffered people who think they’re mind readers and know what’s best for me. Whatever burden they thought I was carrying, they couldn’t have got it any more wrong. Those people stopped being a part of my life when I realised what was was going on, because what I felt was betrayed. My own feelings didn’t matter, it was their feelings about what they assumed about me that were more important to them.

As such, I would favour open communication instead of being ‘protected’. That requires serious trust. And a lot of these games that we play depend on a lack of trust.

There’s nothing cynical about this, we’ve all done things with good intentions in mind only to get bad results. Oftentimes it’s because we’re acting in our own interest and not the person we’re putting it on.

[macspoofing]

It depends. That's all I'm saying here. It is t an absolute answer.