[PhasmaFelis]

I haven't read the book, but the idea of "love languages" seems plausible to me. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Five_Love_Languages

It sounds like maybe your love languages are acts of service and nonjudgmental listening, and your partner's are...something else. I guess a mutually acceptable compromise might involve your partner trying to be more understanding about how you express love, and you trying to put more energy into the expressions that your partner wants. I don't know exactly how you'd get there, but the book might have something constructive to say, and couples therapy is often a good idea.