[jzycrzy]

This makes me think of Kahlil Gibran's The Prophet, where he tells a parent their children will live in a time they can never visit or see and therefore must let their children have their own thoughts.

The excerpt "On Children":

  Your children are not your children.
  They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.

  They come through you but not from you,

  And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

  You may give them your love but not your thoughts, 

  For they have their own thoughts.

  You may house their bodies but not their souls,
  For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, 
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

  You may strive to be like them, 
but seek not to make them like you.

  For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

  You are the bows from which your children 
as living arrows are sent forth.

  The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, 
and He bends you with His might 
that His arrows may go swift and far.

  Let our bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
  For even as He loves the arrow that flies, 
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

[p_nathan]

That is well said.

I was chatting with a friend who is studying education for her PhD about the article. We were unimpressed by Chua's approach and think it's quite too extreme.