[samstave]

So what the heck is gravity???

And assuming youre pulling mayter together so strongly, what happens to the spatial size of the atoms being pulled into that black hole? Does the physical size of the atoms change? Do they transmogrify into some other substance? Are black holes hot? Or cold?

[chousuke]

As far as I understand it, you can think of spacetime as having a shape. All objects travelling through spacetime must conform to its shape. Einstein's insight was that objects with mass affect this shape of spacetime, and thus there is an apparent force because spacetime itself bends and thus any path through spacetime in that region also changes. It's very weird, but also kind of neat. The effect is very weak though which is why it's only really noticeable around very massive objects.

If it helps, draw a line on paper and bend the paper in various ways and observe how the line changes. You should also be able to find demonstrations on YouTube using a stretched canvas.

As for the size of matter, atoms aren't actually the smallest thing we know of, so there's (relatively speaking) a lot of empty space even inside an atom that you can squeeze out.

As for what happens inside black holes under mind-boggling pressures, while there's reason to suspect that there is such a thing as "the smallest possible space" (a quantum of space) that would act as a limit, but it's not been possible to confirm yet, so it's only speculative, and as such the only intellectually honest answer is "I don't know".

As for the temperature of a black hole, I don't know. I think Hawking radiation implies they have one, but you'll need to find out yourself.