[acl777]

Yes - I missed a lot of context with my wife's comment.

Usually, in any heated situation, I would get tense and cause the situation to escalate out of control. After cooling off, I would be apologizing to her for my behavior in the situation.

In our time together (over a decade now) - she never apologized to me for her behavior.

The fact she did twice recently feels like a shock to me because it's so unusual for me.

It's an EQ win in the sense that I didn't lose my cool as usual.

Hope that adds context.