[chancho]

Push your children to succeed. Don't let them give up at the first impasse, because kids really can be lazy if you let them get away with it.

Take that sentiment and mix it with some freedom: Instead of making them play the violin/piano and study pre-med, let them choose their goals. "Want to be an actor? Great! But you're going to be the best actor in that play and I won't tolerate anything less." "Guitar? Sure! ... You're not coming out of your room until you nail Stairway."

Not all Chinese folks are as psycho as this gal. A Chinese guy I worked with told me that he put it to his son this way: "You can do what ever you want, I just want you to excel at whatever you do."

(on the balance, though, this essay is garbage.)