[krel]

My gf is very extrovert and in need of social interactions to not get depressed. Having an "office room" helps, but not really solving the issue. Now she just feels ignored instead.

She gets it from an intelligent perspective that I need to work, but emotionally its a struggle.

[pavel_lishin]

What would she do if you worked in an office?

[krel]

I do work from an office most of the time so I can compare; it works way better since the "Im working/not working"-line is less fuzzy (I think).

[beatgammit]

I think this is the issue my wife has. She sees me at home and seems to think, well, maybe I can interrupt him just this once, and it happens a few times a day. I feel like I get more done in less time, but I also get less time, what with taking care of random errands.

When I worked on the office, she kept complaining that I came home too late (8 hours + ~1 hour commute). Now she complains when I work too late, but I work late because of the interruptions.

I've considered renting an office in my city, which would mean a ~5 minute commute by bicycle. This should help solve most of the issues we have, since I can be physically away, but not that far away. When I talk to her, things get better for a little while, but it's not really a permanent solution. I could probably make it work with 2-3 days in the office and work at home the other days.

[felipebrnd]

Exactly (including the office situation) here.

Some days I would just do obligations like meetings and urgent stuff at the normal hours and leave the deep work to do when she and the baby were asleep.

This was definitely the hardest thing to balance...