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by brokenmachine 2505 days ago
I'd call myself an introvert, but I definitely get a bit awkward with silences in conversation, except when I'm with good friends.

When there's an extrovert dominating and thus no silence at all, I just get tired of listening.

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Sure, I feel that too sometimes. Sometimes it's because I don't know the other person well so I don't know how they feel about it, so I start to worry that it feels awkward to them and that makes me want to alleviate it for their sake. Often I'm probably just overthinking it.

It can also be tiring when someone dominates a conversation, it really just depends who it is. I have some friends who I could listen to all day, and they'd happily talk all day.

>I have some friends who I could listen to all day, and they'd happily talk all day.

I have those friends too, but unfortunately I also have some acquaintances that I can only listen to for a minute, yet they happily talk all day.

Sometimes their extrovert nature can override recognition of the audience's engagement level.

You tapped into something here. I think for some people, like myself, it depends who I am with and my relationship with them. It can be extrovert and they have a constant stream of interesting things which is mostly fun, so it flows naturally... or there are awkward thoughts or moments that lead to "when will this person shut up".

I wouldn't limit and label myself a certain way based on a few situations with a few people. Keep exploring folks!