[wutbrodo]

One regrettable casualty of this is that I've noticed that almost everyone I know is super unresponsive to texts now. I'm not expecting a fully-interrupt-driven ability to grab someone's attention at any time, but ive even seen cases when you're actively in conversation with someone about something concrete (eg details of a plan) and they drop off in the middle of it. I still think this is pretty rude, but its understandable given that they haven't bothered to make their notifications higher granularity (for my part, I've disabled notifications at the Android level for most of the abusive apps, like Facebook)

> Another thing I've found handy is in my IM app I have notifications for everyone turned off by default, and only allow notifications for close friends and family.

I figure the next step in the evolution of norms will be this understanding of granularity filtering down to the non-tech-savvy masses.

[slantyyz]

Call me old school, but for conversations relating to something concrete and time sensitive, I prefer to do a voice call. I don't trust any text based medium for that.

I use a hierarchy when it comes to prioritizing communications and notifications: Voice > sms > work im/email > personal im/email

Based on that hierarchy, I have different sets of rules as to the types of notifications I get and when I get them.

[wutbrodo]

Sure, there's no accounting for preferences. But for many, a voice call taking the place of every text conversation is a lot _more_ intrusive (albeit in a time-limited, focused way). Shooting off a couple of texts to nail down the details of when you're meeting up for prearranged plans is convenient for calls because it doesn't have to be fully synchronous: send the text, and if the other person responds when you're free, then you can have a synchronous conversation. There's no real analogue with phone conversations other than playing phone tag, which seems like a lot more mental load.