[nfrbc]

Funny thing: I've also heard the opposite complaint from a lot of people!

But it's true, most people really go to Tinder expecting only dating and one night stands.

However, when you're upfront and tell guys you want to settle down you're filtering them, so I guess it's working as intended?

Maybe putting that info in your profile would make it harder to get matches, but at least you'll won't have bad surprises.

EDIT: Another choice is to just keep quiet during dates and probe the guys subtly. Works for some people.

[stefco_]

Yeah, people who are completely direct about what they want in both their profile and communications tend to have a much better time on apps. I try to put things in my profile that will be charming to people I might like and alienating to people I wouldn’t, and it works very well. You have to have some standards and filter out obvious bad matches quickly. Since you’re not dating in your social circles, you don’t have the advantage of a pre-vetted dating pool, so you have to just recognize that most of the people you see won’t be a good match at all.