[krapht]

Being creepy is not at all equivalent to being rejected. People who can't tell the difference need to practice reading body language, and develop an understanding of social cues and norms. It's possible, and I'd say normal, to ask someone out, get rejected, and not be seen as creepy as long as you do it in a mature, adult fashion.

Also, it's a given that an advance from an attractive person, in isolation, might not be creepy, but one from a less attractive person would be. The issue is the ugly person has failed to accurately evaluate their own personal dating market worth, which is a negative social signal.

[dzhiurgis]

Apps like Tinder seem to helped broker your market worth really well. However in the era of IRC you had to build rapport first. Similarly it’s much easier to fall in love with colleague purely because you spend so much time talking together. Sadly you don’t get that depth in dating apps.