[jonaswouters]

For me, it was not lacking time, but lack of energy.

After the first one, it took 3 years before I had enough energy to pick up side projects again, and then the 2nd one came and we were even more exhausted.

Now 3 years later (6 years total) I'm finally starting a side project again.

Scheduling kind of works, but when you don't have the energy to do something that you scheduled, it still doesn't work.

My hobbies have changed over the last 6 years. I picked up BMX racing with our oldest, D&D/ttrpgs with new friends and reading sci-fi/fantasy instead of watching tv and playing games (you can pause it anytime).

My new side project relates to one of my hobbies (lfg site for ttrpgs).

Being picky is necessary and having "meaningless" downtime to find your focus is more important than stressing out and trying to do everything and nothing.

[mac_was]

Actually I haven't thought about switching hobbies, this is something worth considering!