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This is especially true if everybody but the victim thinks it is funny.

If you are not creative enough to come up with a joke that is funny for both sides, and if you don’t have the character to immidiately excuse for a joke that backfired instead of blaming it on them, you shouldn’t feel good executing any joke at all. If you do feel good or you don’t care, this means you are insecure and/or unempathic.