[ianai]

Is there a book or reference for that kind of parenting?

[gewoonkris]

Not sure if this is exactly what you are looking for, but there was a hackernews discussion related to this a while back: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=17905657

[emilecantin]

If there is, I haven't read it. It's not that hard, really. Kids want to do things on their own. If they're having a hard time, help them but don't do it for them. If they don't know how or do it wrong, show them the right way, they'll pick it up faster than you think. Kids are very smart, let them surprise you.