[inscionent]

A high demand job, with travel. She has all my empathy. You seem like a decent and grounded person. I hope you succeed in improving your relationship.

> have I really said something to bring on a fight about feminism?

She may feel that the help she is requesting of you, workout time in this case, would be freely given if the gender roles were reversed. I think this situation always leads to resentment regardless of gender.

It may help to reframe the situation as you both pulling together 'for the family.' She maybe physically leaving and that is a burden, but it is done for a purpose. Reaffirm your common goals and what you each need to be successful. Remember that one relationship is unlikely to be completely satisfying and you may need a parent's meetup, D&D group or tennis buddy.

Counseling is always an option.

> But as I mentioned before, the thought of a slippery slope of sacrifice scares me.

It is scary and exactly the reason you do need to express yourself and your needs. You need you, your family needs you.

[careerspouse]

Thank you, I appreciate your kind words.