[DoreenMichele]

I believe so.

Of course, I can't prove it and I find the question flabbergasting given that I already stated that insisting on condoms was fairly promptly followed by my condition stabilizing and improving.

For the record: I eventually divorced him. I've been celibate for medical reasons for over 14 years, in part because men I dated could not follow the simple instruction to bring a damn condom for health reasons and I was too sick and vulnerable to get up and walk out like I should have. After the third well-educated idiot pulled this on me, I vowed to myself I would be celibate until I was well, basically.

I've gotten off all drugs. I'm gradually putting in more hours on freelance work. I'm mostly healthy when doctors said that was not ever going to happen.

But that's enough about my (utter lack of a) sex life.

[magduf]

I'm not trying to be snarky or insensitive, but is it really that hard for a woman to find a casual sex partner who will use a condom when asked? Surely you could browse the profiles on OKC (where you can see much longer profiles and get a much better idea of someone's personality before meeting them) and find someone suitable. A lot of guys might not say right on their profile that they're available for "short term dating" or "hookups" because they think it looks bad, but they'll probably be happy to take you up on the offer if you ask directly.

Again, sorry for the unsolicited advice, and congratulations on becoming healthy again.

[DoreenMichele]

A. I did say "in part." (Among other things) I also eventually concluded that celibacy was the best policy for my own health. Semen isn't the only way germs get traded.

B. This is an overwhelmingly male forum. While I'm quite comfortable blathering on about all kinds of personal things that give other people the heebie-jeebies, it's my general policy to not discuss my sex life here in a way that actively encourages such interest in me.

Suffice it to say, I'm really not in any need of dating advice. My remarks were pertinent to a meaningful discussion of health and that's the only thing I'm interested in discussing here.

[klyrs]

You're my hero, Doreen. Thanks for talking about this stuff

[bluntfang]

>I'm not trying to be snarky or insensitive, but

oh boy, this is how you're starting this comment?

>is it really that hard for a woman...

facepalm. be mindful of your privilege. this isn't a helpful comment from the start. If you find yourself starting lots of conversations this way, I suggest taking a long reassessment on what your goals are when holding dialogue on the internet.