[jschwartzi]

Yeah, my girlfriend has told me so many stories of the men she dated from Tinder. And of the men she spent time with in the singles' club we met in. And frankly it's understandable that those men are single because most of the stories were of them either not actually attempting to connect with her as a human being, or they were stories of them outwardly objectifying her before even introducing themselves, or they were stories of crippling social anxiety. And as a rule none of them gave any indication they were aware of these things as problems that could be worked on or solved. So it doesn't surprise me there are a bunch of single men out there desperate for attention from women, because there appear to be a bunch of single men out there who are totally unable to take responsibility for or to fix their own problems.

[durnygbur]

How one knows what to fix regarding character and behaviour, if for the person nothing works? Not a little bit, less often, a little bit later, a little bit different, with different kind of person. Nothing works, never.

Please save me from the objectifying story, as both genders are gravely guilty of this (height requirements, demanding certain position and status from the men, very demanding list of character traits in general, all this while expecting appearance of someone professional like actors or celebrities).

[unicornfinder]

Truth be told I think it comes down to dating apps attracting shitty people in general.

[antisemiotic]

>. And frankly it's understandable that those men are single because most of the stories were of them either not actually attempting to connect with her as a human being, or they were stories of them outwardly objectifying her before even introducing themselves, or they were stories of crippling social anxiety.

I wholeheartedly support the notion that random girls on Tinder have no business being some random dude's therapist. But, the idea that crippling social anxiety is pretty much the same as being an objectyfing creep, and it's no wonder socially anxious people are single, is a bit cold.