[CondensedBrain]

>> "It was historically used to either refer to a person of unknown gender, or to optionally refer to a person of a known gender. so your options for singular pronouns might be either he or they, or she or they."

That's the thing though. Enbies don't generally know their gender. If you would use they without anger for an unknown person of unknown gender, it makes no sense to be mad about using it for a known person of unknown gender. You still don't know their gender. Neither of you do. He/him, she/her, man and woman, and sir and ma'am can cause tremendous dysphoria. That's often part of how they know they're not binary.

edit: reduced to key point

[oh_sigh]

Perhaps a good start would be just identify as your biological sex.

[shearskill]

Or you could mind your own business about something that doesn’t affect you at all.

[oh_sigh]

Fine, but asking me to change natural speech patterns does affect me, so please don't ask me to do it.

[shearskill]

Must be extremely difficult to be a programmer who is unwilling to adapt to changes in language usage.