| > would be happy to be alive That's debatable, honestly. You can't possibly know the child will be happy to be alive or will live a life without suffering, it's a gamble. Most people alive on Earth today I would wager experience suffering more than they do happiness. > happiness gives joy to the parent Not denying that, but you can't deny that that is a selfish thing, wanting to bestow joy to yourself. Don't wince in disgust at the word 'selfish'. People do selfish things all the time for mere survival. Again, I wouldn't admonish anyone for it. > I don't see anyone deluding themselves other than the people who think not having children is a moral position to take I never said anything of the sort. |
It's only selfish if you disregard other people and/or hurt them in the process of enjoying yourself. There's nothing selfish about bestowing joy on yourself if it's also a net positive for everyone else.
I don't think your use of the world "selfish" in this debate (with me or the other commenters) has helped your argument. It implies something negative where having children is going to be viewed subjectively and objectively positive by most people. Maybe a better term would be satisfying? That covers that the individual parent benefits but also doesn't imply that having children is hurting others.