| I think you may looking at the wrong disorder. ADHD in adults doesn't mean someone is rude (no more than a normie). But at least some forms of ADHD will make the person look like inherently lazy. > I don’t really see why flaws should become more acceptable if you give them a scientific sounding name. It's not that they should be, they just in practice are to most people, and this can be a lifeline, especially if depression is involved. Personally, I believe some "flaws" (aspects that make it problematic for one to function) absolutely should be cut a lot of slack and approached from another angle. Social pressure - the kind of telling you to stop having a problem and get your shit together - works only for some things, and can make the issue worse in others (e.g. in depression, it not only won't help, it can drive patients to suicide). > I’m not sure it makes sense to accept that people “with ADHD” behave badly for example Beyond the point that most don't "behave badly" but rather "behave inconsistently if at all", it's a matter of what you mean by "accept". If "accept to your social circle"? You can do whatever. But if you want to help that person, you'll accept that these aspects are not effectively corrected by social pressure because they're beyond the person's control. See also, Scott Alexander's old post: https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/895quRDaK6gR2rM82/diseased-t... Quoting the Summary section: "People commonly debate whether social and mental conditions are real diseases. This masquerades as a medical question, but its implications are mainly social and ethical. We use the concept of disease to decide who gets sympathy, who gets blame, and who gets treatment. Instead of continuing the fruitless "disease" argument, we should address these questions directly. Taking a determinist consequentialist position allows us to do so more effectively. We should blame and stigmatize people for conditions where blame and stigma are the most useful methods for curing or preventing the condition, and we should allow patients to seek treatment whenever it is available and effective." |
My point is that many people, especially parents, tend to accept a lot of bad behaviour from people as soon as they mention some magical acronym.
If you accept that human neurology is a spectrum, then you realise that we all have different starting points. The question then becomes how much should society accommodate people with worse starting points, and I firmly believe that we are too accepting, and a lot of that is because people put scientific sounding names on their shortcomings.