[avip]

My biggest challenge, not discussed here at all, is how to force my wife into taking financial decisions. Numerous times I’ve tried to walk her through our finances, trying to make our life choices and trade offs more explicit. Yes we could move to a nicer place but we’ll have to cut down on kids activities. I feel I’m taking all the decisions myself.

[zrail]

Can't really force anyone to do anything. For awhile my spouse and I did a monthly "money talk" where we walked through the monthly income and expenses and talked about things coming up. Eventually they decided they'd rather just not pay attention.