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by ynot269 2592 days ago
gonna need an explanation on how no fap is related to self esteem doc.
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Yeah, I can't understand the no fap cult. Having a strong sex drive and finding it overwhelming at times is just the way humans are made. Wanting to look at porn and nudity, those are pretty much the way humans have been forever. As an example, look at the life of ben franklin 250 years ago, who like a lot of our founding fathers had a very active 'secret' sex life [1], [2]. Almost everyone is like that, in that at times they feel like they are obsessed with sex. If you can't ever get out of bed and do anything but look at porn, that's a problem; but it's just who we are as human beings that we sometimes do a manual override.

All that other advice people give about exercise, doing just a little bit of stuff you want every day, getting therapy - I'm all for that. But cut yourself a break too, you are a human animal.

[1] https://www.biography.com/news/benjamin-franklin-ladies-man-...

[2] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Advice_to_a_Friend_on_Choosing...

Just a word of caution. This has been discussed previously couple of times on HN.

There are some pseudo scientific stuff there but also some interesting points.

Take it with a grain of salt and make your own decision before jumping on any of these bandwagons

For reference:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=5051892

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=5946727

Thanks for the insight, much appreciated!