[kthejoker2]

A charitable read of GP means it might not necessarily be an intentional false accusation.

A simple misunderstanding of a truly collegial touch, an off the cuff remark, a glance, a gesture - all completely normal otherwise and often spontaneous - and you can find yourself on the defensive.

And given social media and the virality of outrage (see Jon Ronson's So You've Been Publicly Shamed, or go Google Johnny Depp and Amber Heard for an example of how he said she said testimony is reported as "Big if true") it's clear that the paranoia stems from the disproportionate reputational damage in the court of public opinion, not the accusation itself.

Which is accurately reflected in the headline as "discomfort" - having to highly self-regulate your words and actions is, by definition, uncomfortable.

Not that it can't and shouldn't be done. But to follow your analogy of getting hit by a truck then mentoring women is like playing a never-ending round of Frogger.

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The logic of your comment makes sense, but what in actual reality would be the difficulty level of this hypothetical game of Frogger? Maybe you have different stats than I do, but it seems like it's one where a single truck crosses the screen every minute or two.

So yeah, the game is endless. You'll never escape the possibility of jumping in front of the truck and getting squashed flat.

Don't jump in front of the truck.

[throwaway6553]

As someone who has been written up at a prior job for nebulously "being creepy" it would be nice to be able to see the trucks coming. For most things that are against the rules in the workplace, there are a list of things you shouldn't do, and you can avoid trouble by simply not doing them. In my case, nobody in HR would tell me what not to do, even though I asked repeatedly. It was just "we got complaints that you were making women feel uncomfortable so please stop doing whatever you were doing." When pressed for examples, none were forthcoming. How is that actionable? How am I responsible for what is inside the thoughts of other people I work with?

I'm now very careful with my interactions with women at work. No 1:1 meetings, all conversation must be strictly work related, no walking the same direction, avoid eye contact as much as possible, etc. It's a total minefield and you need to minimize how much you walk through it, especially if you have a great job.