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by untog 2592 days ago
Why is it a rational response? I've travelled with female co-workers before, it's not as if the company made us share a bed. We were just two people travelling. I don't really understand how the "current climate" would make me rethink that.
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Can you prove you didn’t proposition her during the trip? Remember, she doesn’t have to prove anything to be taken seriously. You, however, have to prove a negative and that’s very hard to do.
If I travel with a male coworker can I prove I don't proposition him? Gay people exist, you know. This isn't any different.
If you are gay, and your gay male coworker accuses you of something it looks worse than if you are a woman, and a gay male accuses you. So, yes, of course it is different. Look at this way, a compatible sexual couple is at higher risk of an accusation than non compatible sexual couple.
But a trustworthy employee won't do any of those things, no matter the gender. If you have an untrustworthy employee you have a whole other problem. They could accuse you of making a pass at them, or of stealing from them, bullying them... the list is endless really. I don't get the preoccupation with sexuality in that context.
Because there is a much greater surface area for misunderstanding when you are travelling with someone. E.g, I ask you to drop off my laptop at my office (no misunderstanding), I ask you to drop off my laptop at my hotel room (risk of misunderstanding).