| > Detachment in the sence of not being dependent/defined by them [...] That is the very definition of detachment. Feelings are the core part of you, and not separate from you. Allowing "yourself" to not be defined by feelings essentially means detaching "yourself" from "your" feelings. > Detachment [...] NOT in the sense of not feeling. Of course if one is not feeling a feeling in the first place there is nothing to detach from. > This is natural, effortless and is part of growing up as a human. So whenever you begin to feel one or more of the following feelings[1] is it "natural, effortless" to experience your peace? -- [1] sadness, loneliness, melancholy, grief, masochism and so on through all the variations such as agony; angst; anguish; anxiety; apprehension; bereavement; bleakness; crestfallen; deflated; dejected; depression; desolation; despondency; disappointment; disconcerted; disconsolate; discontented; discouraged; disenchanted; disillusioned; displeased; disquiet; dissatisfied; distress; dismay; downhearted; dreariness; edginess; fear; fed-up; flustered; foreboding; fretfulness; frustrated; gloominess; glum; grief; heartache; horror; lament; melancholic; miserable; misery; morose; mourning; nervousness; panic; perturbed; regret; sad; sadness; sorrow; sorrowfulness; suffering; tenseness; terror; thwarted; torment; trepidation; troubled; uneasiness; upset; woe; worry; wretchedness |
You are right. Then it is detachment but with feelings if it makes any sense to you. It's like you go beyond those feelings -- without excluding them.
> So whenever you begin to feel one or more of the following feelings[1] is it "natural, effortless" to experience your peace?
Yes because the peace you are talking about is what gives birth to all those feelings.
In other words, I no longer care about who goes to the toilet first.
And, it takes time for one to grow up. In that moment at the age of 4 no one could convince her that the pain/sadness she feels is self-made. One can argue that, those experiences are necessary to grow. But I'm sure we agree that it is a good thing to keep growing even after that.