| Sorry to hear you had to go through this. Shouting is a sign of weakness on the part of your boss. Why he had a weak moment? There might be dozens of reasons big or small and we certainly can't, but maybe you can put how it happened into context a bit. Maybe your boss had a bad day or was hangry, maybe he is under some heavy professional or private stress, maybe he just got some really bad news just before this happened. In any case, this is a total no go, and if I were you, I'd draw a line. I personally have a three strike policy if someone treats me extremely unfairly. If it happens the first time it may be annoying, but maybe I also didn't get the full picture. I'll tell the person that what happened made me extremely uncomfortable and that I need to know the context of why it happened. I will also tell the person on that first occasion, that if it happens a second time its on them and the third time we're done and I'll show no regret or mercy in cutting ties or taking appropriate action against their behavior. This system helps me to stay calm and focussed if stuff happens as I know already how it will play out and I don't worry about the future that much. I don't know your context, but if you're a software engineer who was hired at a company 10k away be aware that you're on the long end of the stick here. You will most likely find employment again - and hopefully know what to look out for the second time. Do not be afraid to ask direct questions, I would say that is much more socially accepted in Western Europe (most of all in Germany) than in Asian cultures - as far as I'm aware of, please correct me if I'm wrong. Godspeed and if you want someone to talk to, feel free to reach out (mail in profile). I'm a good listener. |