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People aren't asked to be "nice" here, but they are asked to be kind: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html. Being kind, among other things, means resisting the impulse to flame others even if they are ignorant and wrong, and even if they identify with institutions that have done horrible things. I know that's a lot to ask, but that's what we do ask—even if others don't follow the same rule.

For me, it has been necessary to realize that the agitation going on inside me when I lash out at others over such issues is itself a form of violence and war. Not the same in degree, of course; but the same in kind, and that matters more.