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by awaythrowwwww 2601 days ago
"I mean, the 80/20 rule is seen in all kinds of places"

Sorry, repeating the same point won't make it any more true. Still haven't seen any evidence for this stat, only American stereotypes.

It's hard to track people's sex lives for obvious logistical/ethical reasons, but the most accurate study I've read on that was about teenagers in a high-school in a small rural town, so a closed environment that's easy to control. Forgot the link, will track it down if you're interested. But basically the "sex encounter" graph was fairly evenly spread and evenly balanced between men and women. Sure enough there were "clusters" but they were engaged with each other, not monopolizing 80% of everyone.

As it turns out, if your social circle is made up of sociosexually unrestricted people, everyone involved is going to have lots of sex. If it's made up of restricted people, few people are going to have encounters. But one person or two keeping all women in a sort of "serial monogamous schedule" while they do liteally nothing else? That doesn't make sense and I've never seen it happen, nor have I read any actual scientific study about this.

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Dating in real life within a small(ish) social circle and modern online dating where the available pool is literally millions of people is completely different
Online dating is a tiny, tiny blip in the world of dating. Dating itself is a uniquely American practice and a tiny, tiny blip in the world of sociosexual dynamics. People meet, hook up with and bond with each other in all sorts of creative ways that goes way beyond Tinder, Bumble and Okcupid. If your only outlook on this stuff is through the lens of apps owned by shady companies optimizing for user engagement, you're going to have a skewed and miserable worldview.
Online dating is the only dating for many young people nowadays. Alcohol used to be a major factor in finding a partner but young people are drinking less and less by the year.

The social skills of the youth are also getting worse due to smartphones, leading to less interaction in schools at workplaces etc