[DoreenMichele]

Basically, you are vilifying the parent who bothers to stick around because it is usually a woman.

Sadly, as I write this, it's the top comment because this is an overwhelmingly male forum, so an awful lot of members are all too happy to upvote anything that spin doctors problems to make men look good and women look bad without thinking any deeper about the problem than that.

For the record, it's actually a problem that so many men in the US don't give a damn about their own children, can't be bothered to show up and also don't give a damn about how that negatively impacts the woman who had children by them.

We need more family friendly policies that help parents do right by their kids. Most developed countries do not take the attitude that "You fools who had kids are on your own and we aren't going to lift a finger to help you raise your kids. No, we don't care that this actually comes back to bite us once they are grown and the problem is being handled by the police and the penal system. We just aren't that bright and can't see the cause-and-effect obvious connection there, never mind the existence of studies that show it."