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by hguhghuff 2611 days ago
Just absorb it with a smile and put your head down and work and ensure everyone likes you.

In six months everything will have changed.

Also, read "The Prince" if the really want to know how to survive office politics.

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That's a bad advice.

What this will do is to allow the existing communication pattern to be accepted as a norm and it will be extremely difficult to change in the future. Instead, with a little explicit pushback the OP can express his confusion/dismay at other dude's behavior, set the boundaries and nip this in the bud. Literally, just interrupt him mid-sentence and say - Listen, something's been bothering me. I really don't understand why you are talking down to me. I don't like it and I find it inappropriate.

But as others have said, you clearly have a communication problem, because you both think the other one is an idiot :)

I've worked with a lot of dickheads.

My only regret in hindsight is not just ignoring them.

Things do move so quickly in the workplace that it won't be long till he or you is gone or some other circumstance comes up.

I don't think it's always in your interests to confront problem people. Just nod, pretend to listen then do whatever you want.

Pragmatism man, that's were it's at.

A lot of dickheads are that way only if they are allowed to run around unchecked. Nodding and smiling at them is like feeding the trolls, not the best option.
Not completely.

Given the circumstances -- OP being new to the company and the other person being "friend of manager" -- I would say it would be really difficult for OP to pull off a push back. The advice to put your head down and smile can work wonders when used at right occasion (which I feel like this is one).

Right on! I'd say try your best to let ego issues pass by and just do your part of the job. His behaviour, however inappropriate, doesn't have to affect you.