| you thought it wasn't necessary because you feel I was trying to be mean to you? I thought it was necessary to remind you. did you feel I wasn't being genuine? I don't think that was necessary to take it like that. but I can definitely understand how you might feel scared you're being judged for working at a big Corp after startups. I'm not judging you, I think big Corp is a great achievement. I am genuinely congratulating, and reminding you that big Corp is what you wanted, so you can learn to play that game. is that better now? buy in from management is always an issue. it's just they don't want to give you the impression of friction because you've just started. they're presenting you a side they think you'll like because management has decided it's important to hire and retain talent like you. you're not asking for life advice? you're saying that because you feel I've been giving you life advice? I can understand you really take your work personally and I think that's a good thing to be passionate at what you do. I've only given you work advice specific to the situation you describe. and I'm happy with what I've said. but that's enough about you, I took the time to read your post and make an answer, and when you make these comments, I feel like you're making it all about you, I feel you are attacking me for that and like you're not showing any gratitude. that hurts because I just wanted to be seen for contributing my help and perspective. can you when you ask for help not only consider your feelings and also consider the feelings of those offering you help? thank you. finally, when you ask in a public place this, the answer is not just for your benefit. hope your new job is good. |