[devoply]

To tone down those tendencies in yourself that are likely to cause you to get into bad situations. For instance perhaps you love to argue, often that leads people to dislike you. Find a way to be yourself and do the things that you enjoy doing without getting contempt from other individuals and society... However, there are professions where this is impossible such as porn star for instance. If you choose such a path as I said know the implications and be willing to live with them. Recently Mia Khalifa got very angry for being called a porn star, something she did for 3 months, she claims. There is someone who was trying to discover who they were and trying things and now their entire self is based on something that they regret doing.

[projektir]

As I've already said others don't have to approve or tolerate whatever it is you do or are by nature of being authentic. That is not related, why would it be? Being authentic is an end to itself, but it makes no guarantees, and the clash between the individual and society is often the point.

[nostrademons]

> perhaps you love to argue

Or go on HN, where everybody loves to argue.

More generally, the world is broad enough that there's usually a tribe for everyone. You may not find them in your local area. That's an impetus to go beyond your local area and seek them out.

[maxerickson]

Arguing without literacy is shouting.