[vikingcaffiene]

I would respectfully ask you to re-read my comment. I did acknowledge that zero-tolerance would be impractical (perhaps not as clearly as I should have) but its the ideal to strive for. A sort of "shoot for the moon and hit the stars" type thing. I think that we need to deter abuse in OSS as a whole. Right now it's a way for developers to vent frustration into a faceless void which is part of where the vitriol comes from I think.

To your point, I think also that practicality dictates an escalating type of warning system such as we see in social networks. You mistreat developers in a forum you get a warning about it, next you can't comment for 30 days, finally you are just banned. If you send a direct message to a maintainer or the like with abuse, you get immediately banned. Something like that. The point is, it's not cool to abuse people who make you stuff for free that you use to earn a living. Just a giant hell no.

And lastly, I would like to tell you that you are dead wrong about assholes being effective leaders. Effective leaders are people who are right more often than they are wrong. Effective leaders have vision. Effective leaders inspire people to be better than themselves. If they also happen to be an asshole that is in SPITE of their success. Not because of it.