| hmm...
I think many rationals problem is that they don't interact enough and then use their positive social interactions to social proof their bad ones. Consider his first scenario where the person puts up his hand and says that they don't have the budget to do that.
The speaker might indeed be mad and likewise some others in the room.
Invariably there would be someone there that likes your outspoken or directness[just by the share number of people in the room, probability dictates it]. Now, if our rational guy stands there by himself and refuses to interact with others, the speaker and his allies will brand him as rude. Every move he makes, no matter how trivial would only be seen in this light. If he had started interacting until he found someone who likes his disposition, he is then social proof by that person. Then he begins to climb a ladder of social proof. He would meet someone else who because that one person liked him they would like him too, and you can see how this spreads exponentially. Now, it would be just the speaker left hating him; well no actually, the speaker will now think his evaluation of the situation was previously wrong and that the guy is alright.[Appropriate reading: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asch_conformity_experiments] And if our rationalist is lucky he can turn his new found social proof into Authority by running for some prestigious position such as president. At which point, people will like him cause he is in that given position. Being nice has it's only problems also. For instance, people would assume you want something from them if you start acting nice the first time you meet them. Again, social proof can over come this problem of being suspecting of wanting something. Social proofing can lead to what I call, the lovable Jerk. People who act in a way that undermines others but the general populous loves them so they are forgiven time and time again. With that said let, me sum up my points. Being social proof will lead to people liking you but as a rational you only have a few people who naturally like you but you need to build from those few.[Appropriate viewing: Derek Sivers - How to start a movement http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V74AxCqOTvg ] |