[drdeca]

> what has been burned into my mind as a child

How was this done?

[rxhernandez]

With my father doing the complete opposite by being abusive as possible without physically touching me.

[drdeca]

:( I’m sorry to hear that,

I don’t mean to suggest that shame/guilt aren’t sometimes (often?) overused.

I just think that attempting to entirely excise them is a mistake (and that they are at times useful in moderation for certain things).