[throwawaystale]

> if men and women want sex roughly as many times, or if women want more,

In my experience, this is counterfactual.

Also, I have a hottie buddie who has a lot of sex with a lot of women. Suspect he can easily keep ten women satisfied, on average.

[arandr0x]

Yeah I haven't mention this, but my theory also suggest undesirable men may be even less well served if, for some reason, more desirable men also want more sex. If so then they could easily satisfy most of the women -- even if the undesirable men don't want sex as much, sex would unlock more social benefits of "interacting with a woman semi-regularly", and now that they aren't getting any, they also lose that.

If that is the case it would be interesting to know why desirable men have such outsized libidos. Is it that they are choosing sex over other activities because it is more rewarding for them?

[toomuchtodo]

A hunch is that the genetic traits that make a man physically desirable are the same that govern testosterone levels (increasing libido over mean).

[throwawaystale]

Is there any reason to think desirable men have a differing distribution of libidos (vs the not desirable men)? A simpler explanation would be that they have more sex because they have more opportunity, no?