[bearcherian]

When you show your employer an offer you received from another employer, aren't basically saying "Pay me more" and asking for a raise? I can't imagine going to your manager and saying, "Look, these guys want to pay me more. haha. OK, back to work."

[athenot]

There's a soft way to ask for it. You basically point out that your manager is at risk of loosing you. Note that you need to understand both how much you bring to the team from your manager's perspective as well as your manager's budget considerations.

It's possible you outgrew the position altogether and the group you're in isn't interested in what you've become, at least not at that price. Or it's possible that what you've become is truly worth it to the team and replacing you with someone new would noticeably set the team back.

[DVassallo]

Yes, maybe. But it doesn't require asking any questions or negotiating (which is what the article is about).