[towaway1138]

I have. My gross is now about one-third of what it was a few years ago. Briefly, a really ugly divorce that I didn't see coming pretty much sucked the life out of me.

I'm inferring that you have a family to support. (If it's just you, I'd seriously consider declaring bankruptcy.) I can relate. For what it's worth, this can be the lot of men in our society. I don't think it's an indication that you did anything wrong. Good luck.

[soulnothing]

It is just me and bankruptcy was the way forward. Im amazed at how much harder it is to climb out after.

My condolences on the divorce. I wasn't married but went through something similar. And know that suck the life feeling.

I agree with your last sentiment. Alot of the career seems to be luck or right time right place. I know a number of phenomenal engineers in similar positions.