[throwaway988371]

From a parent's perspective, it would have been nice if she'd asked us first "Would you like the most accurate possible diagnosis, or would you like an 'overcooked' one which maximises the odds of you getting approved for government disability funding?" She just assumed we wanted the second without even asking us.

[zamazingo]

To the contrary, she told you what the actual diagnosis was and why she put on paper what she put.

Get a second and third opinions.