[ziont]

transwomen's individual lives differ drastically

good on you that you are in STEM

I was in STEM but being transgender excluded me.

Trans people are treated like freaks. As far as I know, I don't exist. I am fine with this.

but it irks me when ppl humble brag

[Raphmedia]

Well, as far as I can gather from your posting history you are from Vancouver.

I know several people from western Canada that live openly trans and work without any issues. Don't give up because of a handful of bad employers and some bad experiences.

They added protection to the B.C. Human Rights Code in 2016 and there are a lot of protections Canada wide.

This is not an humble brag, this is your rights. You have the right to work in any field you want. In STEM we even have the opportunity to work remotely, which helps if you are too uncomfortable to be out in public.

[ziont]

every fucking position i applied to i was turned down because it had 'client facing roles'

I even said i would use my male voice on the phone because I don't wanna weird people out

This was an issue also at my old job.

I feel that I wasted a decade in the tech industry, mostly startups.

now im in my early 30s, im totally fucked.

i think lot of pornstars do it just so they can prostitute themselves.

Vancouver has social liberal rights with none of it actually respected by the population. theres still the old judeo-christian ethics along with sino ethics which make it way worse.

I'm considered a freak and will be so .

Society doesn't want to see me, or acknowledge me. what options are there for me?

what options are there for the negroes in detroit ghetto?

what options are there for people who are completely shunned and unwanted by mainstream society and even family and friends?

Fuck you. You haven't walked in my shoes.

[Raphmedia]

I don't understand why you are so hostile with me.

All I'm doing is telling you that you have rights and that you should not give up. That there are people living in your city with similar situations as yours that have managed to make it through.

I know one person who moved from Québec to B.C. to start a new life as their true gender, so I have a hard time believing that the situation is as bad as you describe it. I'm sure it feels that way, being trans is absolutely crushing but our perception of the world around us is often flawed.

Looking at your posting history here, most of your recent comments are either dead or negative. That's people who have no idea you are trans. In my eyes, the issue lies elsewhere. You act very crudely and I can only hope that you do not act the same way at the workplace or during job interviews.

Have you considered moving to another province instead of changing career? There are a lot of LGBTQ+ friendly cities across Canada.

Don't give up, keep fighting.