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Dear ThrowawayIn2019,

I sympathize with your situation. Before you can get meaningful advice can you post how have you taken responsibility for the situation you are in?

My $0.02 - you should seek marriage counseling or help from a professional rather than a community that you irrationally feel close to but in reality does not know anything about your and more importantly your kids and wife’s situation. I think your wife and children deserve more than that for an outcome that could be life altering for everybody involved.