[bengunnink]

Don't ask the peanut gallery. Go see a marriage counselor.

[throwawayIn2019]

A marriage counselor is just one person. The peanut gallery is more people giving advice from different perspectives.

[bengunnink]

A marriage counselor is someone who is trained in dealing with your particular problem.

Would you walk into, say, a car dealership and ask for programming advice? Or would you talk to someone who programs for a living?

[throwawayIn2019]

I totally see your point.

Technically if you asked enough car dealerships the same question you will get a mixture of right and wrong. If you ask just one you get just one answer, is it right or wrong?

I think your main point of seeing one is valid. We should consider doing that.