| It understand that you are missing is some free time to have a more fulfilling life. And I somewhat share the same urge to have more free time to pursue some technical endeavors. Luckily, I have a few weeks every year when my wife is in vacation with the kids away from home while I keep working. So I have absolute freedom again for a short time ! So yes, the first few days I use my free time to look at some technology or experiment that are on my backlog and this is great and I do enjoy it. However, depending on how frantic the day is at work, I generally don't have enough stamina to sustain a full day work, followed by a few hours of self study at home. So basically after 1 or 2 hours, I quit and go to bed. And after a few days, enjoying my free time, the excitement subsides somewhat, I get bored and I miss my family. So basically, what I concluded, that even if magically I was free of all family constraints, I wouldn't probably be coding all the time, and likely more miserable. In your situation, before triggering the divorce, I would at least try to negotiate with your wife to try to have a week/a month with more free time, eventually away from home. It is possible you will not enjoy it as much as you think you would. |