[throwawayIn2019]

Thank you for taking the time to write this.

The thing is she is ok with a divorce too. She has things she wants too. It would be uncontested and I think we just need to file in court. No need for attorneys.

Snoring: We have tried everything. Weight loss, exercise, no alcohol. I started wearing ear plugs and a mask. She had a CPAP machine too. She just doesn't stick with any of it.

Earning a divorce: I'm not sure how to answer this. I need to read what you wrote a few more times.

[ytNumbers]

If you're uncertain whether or not you've earned a divorce, then you haven't earned it. If you choose to begin the divorce process, your wife will suddenly be hugely financially incentivized to take steps to make sure that she gets the maximum amount of money from you. You will likely be amazed at how different her attitude is once you begin to divorce.

[davismwfl]

Yea, I get she is ok with a divorce right now. But once her friends and family start talking to her they will convince her to talk with an attorney to “protect” her interests. Frankly I would totally encourage you to do so too.

Divorce seems so simple on the face of it but I promise it gets complicated fast.

My ex and I had everything negotiated too until her mom and a friend got in her ear. We even had what was fair child support setup and already working. Than it turned into a battle after she talked with them.

As for earning a divorce. It means different things to different people overall. But to me it means you both have exhausted all practicle means to fix things and have put forth real effort for a sustained time. If you do this than that is when divorces usually are pretty easy because both of you know you put your all into trying.

[throwawayIn2019]

I didn't think about this. Thank you for mentioning it.