[southerndrift]

Life is not a race. Either nobody is judging you for your choices or whoever is judging you doesn't have the right to do so.

If you ask yourself what you want to do instead of asking yourself what you want to achieve, the conflicts that demand solace should be gone.

That said, it's still a nice game to try to achieve the most. But that's stressful and you should be in a position of choosing that stress, not submitting to it.

[Topolomancer]

This might also be a good time to pitch the 'Meditations' by Marcus Aurelius again (a time-honoured classic that pops up very often in HN discussions). I cannot stress how much insight is contained in this book---it may help you achieve a healthy detachment from these things.

[kulahan]

>If you ask yourself what you want to do instead of asking yourself what you want to achieve, the conflicts that demand solace should be gone.

Easier said than done. A decade into my career, I still have no idea. I just kinda go with the flow.