[ethbro]

$0.02. If you're going to subsidize, do it in a way that (1) isn't blatantly monetary, (2) is clearly time limited, (3) is private and the other party can be expected to keep reasonable confidence, and (4) carries with it no expectations (you're not righter because you're paying, pretend you're just burning the money).

E.g. discretely offer to pay X years of tuition, or for a trip, for a nice dinner for the family, or opening and funding an IRA for a year

Disagree with the 'never' remarks. Family is family. If they were there for you, it's laudable to be there for them. Just tread carefully and quietly.

PS: Just to point it out, if someone works hard and you give them more than they would normally make... don't trivialize it, because then you're trivializing what they do every day.