[AIX2ESXI]

yeah, the majority of my male friends are addicted to gaming and living in an alternate reality; it is something I have struggled with as well. Though I have always held a job and currently am enrolled in college in pursuit of my B.S. Comp sci degree, I would rather relax at home and game on my PS4/PC than go out to bars or clubs. Every year I spend hundreds to thousands of dollars on new games, hardware, monitors and whatever comforts that enhance that experience.

Many of us don't see the point in chasing marriage, higher education, careers, relationships or being a homeowner. The dating game in most cities is abysmal, and the majority of attractive single ladies are high end escorts, sugar babies and or gold diggers. There are many factors in society that has led to that. Sure I can spend a thousand or two on a nice watch, but for what? I can get a high NUC PC and huge monitor for that price. The same applies to a luxury car, sure I can afford it, but I would rather walk, take the train/bus or uber, so that I space out and listen to podcasts, youtube or game while commuting.

Phillip Zimbardo wrote a recent book on the afflictions that young men are facing today. It seems dauntless. Sometimes, I too ask myself if the chase is worth it. My gut feeling is that it's not.

[pdav]

For what it's worth I think your views on women, at least in terms of your articulation here are pretty extreme. Attractive single women can't all be put into buckets like that, because attractiveness is not an objective quality.

In the first sentence you distance yourself from your friends who "are" addicted, but spend the rest of the time justifying your affiliation with the group. Would you like to be typecast in the same way?

[HashHishBang]

>The dating game in most cities is abysmal, and the majority of attractive single ladies are high end escorts, sugar babies and or gold diggers.

Yeesh this just comes off as bitter. The dating game is hard but it's a two way street. I doubt anyone is going to be surprised that the most attractive members of either sex are taken but writing them off as sex workers is remarkably disingenuous.

[wilsonnb3]

> majority of attractive single ladies are high end escorts, sugar babies and or gold diggers.

I don’t think your outlook on life is anything close to accurate if you believe this.

[Justsignedup]

> The same applies to a luxury car

Yeah I don't think Luxury cars give a big level of satisfaction.

For me, I have always felt that I can easily spend $20 and have a weekend of fun, or $100 and have a night out at a bar. The $20 for a weekend feels better.

That's the point. There are better forms of entertainment. The problem is that socializing is also a need our brain has that takes a back-seat.

Edit: Current society has most of our motivations to do things kinda met: games & tv, social media & game groups, porn. More or less you can control most of your basic motivations without the need for socializing or doing things that cost more than a bit of money. I'd argue 200 years ago it would be impossible to be satisfied even at that level without major social gatherings and such.

[photojosh]

> The dating game in most cities is abysmal, and the majority of attractive single ladies are high end escorts, sugar babies and or gold diggers.

Time to start going to church.

[CuriouslyC]

Clubs do suck, but seeking satisfaction through gaming is going to leave you dead inside in the long run. Can I suggest picking up some hobbies that you can do socially, where you can meet women with mutual interests?

As for your rant on the behavior of hot women... You have to understand, hot women grow up having to constantly push people away because they get too much attention. They develop hoops because otherwise they'd probably never get to be alone. In a lot of cases their demanding behavior is a veneer that you can get past fairly quickly once they realize they enjoy having you around. As long as you're really confident, when that type of woman is unreasonably demanding, it works pretty well to respond to her as if she just told a bad/corny joke.

[watwut]

It is kind of interesting that you see two alternatives - drinking+clublife or gaming and not much else.

[minkzilla]

I hear a baffling amount of this sentiment these days, and its not just gaming, though gaming is probably the most common. Do people see the only alternative to leaving their home as drinking at clubs / bars? or is it just an excuse and people don't really mean it ? I hear it enough that I don't really think it is. Do people not know there are a plethora of social activities that don't involve drinking?

[watwut]

Maybe it is that when are isolated long enough, you cease to know what people normally do (not having occasion to observe it) and pop-entertainment reality takes over in your mind.

Isolation does that. And majority of population was never heavy clubbers or keg drinkers. That was always only minority of people despite being shown in movies as norm.

[ironic_ali]

It is interesting. Almost like the pursuit of gaming takes away the imagination and urge to engage in anything else.

[lalos]

I'm curious on your opinion, but what is the limit of addiction to gaming and just gaming for hobby? I might be reading too much on your usage of "friends are addicted to gaming"